Diaspora relationships that are getting closer and further apart
Relationships are always a weakness for expats who harbor the pangs of alienation. They spend every moment cherishing the bonds formed in the delicacy of the mind as they enter the exile life from the country. Expatriates always show the need to be close to their own family and country as the feelings of deep love and longing for their loved ones create oscillations in the mind.
Whatever movements take place at home, whether happy or sad, affect them deeply. If there are happy things going on in the family like marriage and marriage, the expatriate prays for it to go smoothly. If there are sad things happening like death of relatives or serious diseases, their heart is burning. He may shed tears thinking that he is not present in such ceremonies where he has to participate emotionally.
If they receive a request for financial assistance from family, neighborhood or country, they are eager to solve it. Philanthropy and public service are in their DNA. There are many groups working for that in the diaspora world. Thus, expatriates unhesitatingly provide necessary assistance to relatives, friends and locals. They do these things forgetting even themselves.
If at least one family member needs to get a visa to reach the diaspora world, then they rush for it. In the meantime, only they know that they fall into various scams and suffer severe mental stress. What do they get in return for their generous help? It never has to be good. There are many experiences of falling out over trivial reasons.
The opposite experiences are also not rare. You can see people living in harmony, respecting the elders and respecting the younger ones in the family. God’s blessings will be in such families. There we will see good prosperity and progress. On the other hand, there are people in the diaspora who are financially and psychologically broken with the breakdown of family relationships, and who are at the height of glory when the relationship warms up.
To strengthen relationships
The famous author Dale Carnegie (Dale Carnegie) in his book How to Influence Others describes in detail about many things that help strengthen relationships. Whenever you get the chance, don’t hesitate to honor and compliment your relatives. Give importance to the problems of others rather than your own. Listen to their pain. Through it even bitter enemies will become friends.
Speak softly, avoid criticism, and don’t be defensive at the beginning of the speech. Avoid ordering things to be done, ask questions and gradually bring them to our needs. If we love them, we will receive it twice as much. The Prophet also said that none of you will become believers until his brother does not like what he likes.
Make regular family visits when you come home on vacation. Help them. Give them gifts. Be a part of their ups and downs. Get everyone together and organize family reunions. Improve relations with mother, sister, wife, children and brothers. Distance in family relationships can be due to leakage of God’s blessings. Business will fail. Adding family ties will increase prosperity. Vices like adultery and backbiting can destroy relationships.