Prophetic examples for happy married life
Many of us get swept up in the routine hustle and bustle of everyday life. There are so many experiences before us where it has affected and disrupted the married life. Fortunately for the faithful, the Prophet has set us a clear example for a happy married life. Below are five powerful and practical habits of the prophetic life that will help warm marital relationships:
- Make it a habit to smile
A smile is a window to closed hearts. You can get the love of those around you by smiling. When you smile, the movement of the muscles in the body increases and it increases blood circulation. Smiling itself is a preventive treatment. Headaches are relieved and vitality increases as more oxygen is available.
The Prophet was always smiling. His companions recorded that they never saw anyone smiling more than the Prophet (PBUH). The Prophet also said that smiling is dharma. Smiling can extinguish the fire of anger.
- Sweet talk
The Prophet said: Let those who believe in Allah and the Last Day speak well or remain silent. Husband and wife should always be together. Encourage positives instead of negatives. It is natural for a girl who is newly entering family life to have various fears. Encourage them by saying good words. That is the example of the Prophet.
- Don’t get angry
History records that when the great fourth Caliph Ali (RA) married Fatimah, the Prophet’s daughter, the Prophet (PBUH) gave many important advices. But we get angry with our fellow man for trivial things. From washing the dishes to cleaning the house, we tend to be lazy. Cool down instead of getting angry. smile The Prophet admonished one three times: Do not be angry.
- An outing together
Traveling, shopping and outings as a couple are good ways to improve the relationship. All these were strange things in the old days. But in today’s complex social environment, time demands changes from us. The Prophet devoted most of his time to spending time with his family. It shows that family is very important. Kicking the family is the way of Western culture. Islam is totally different from that. The Prophet used to walk and travel with his wives. Listened to their opinions. He cheered them up with inspirational talks.
- Express love through words
The Prophet expressed his love for his fellow women through words. In a hadith called Qudsi, Allah says: Two people love each other for My sake. They are sure of my love. The Prophet had spoken of Khadija only with great affection. The Prophet said that their love was being given to me.
Say I love you and do the other four things above. Relationships between husband and wife can be warm. The wife can also play a leading role in this. Things will only happen if someone comes forward. A scholar who was trying to mend the relationship of husband and wife finally advised them like this: Both of you don’t push the horn and at least one of you accepts the woman’s kindness.